So is marriage something that eventually gets easier when you reach old age... when you are no longer so busy juggling 5 million things and pulling small children away from swishing thier hands in the toilet water? I love the relationship Joel and I have - we are great friends most of the time we really understand each other. I love the way that he really knows what I need...he pushes me to do things that he knows are important to me...even when I wouldn't dare and even when it puts him out to do so. I love it that we understand each others work, vision and interests... that we're in to so many of the same things but both have our own avenues to get on with things. But seriously does life get less busy? Our time together seems to be a whirlwind of chaos...the space in the daytime is filled with activity of entertaining the children, but the main time we see each other is when one of us runs i the house , hands over the car keys and a child and the other rushes out. This maybe happens 20 odd times until the children's bedtime. Then it is focus time - all the things we have needed to get done in the day but couldn't, all the me time, work time, creative time...the evenings are a hive of creative activity in our house. Even now at 1.30 - gosh I did NOT realise it had got THAT LATE! I am writing away and Joel is crafting songs in the lounge next to me. Together but both in our very own different head space. I do love that but how fo you switch off? How can we spend time together that isn't busy? Seriously do you have to wait until your children have grown up before you get any sort of normality back?
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Hey Mand, i know how you feel! I long for the day when the kids can get up themselves and we can have a lie in for once and not feel in a permanent state of tiredness...or for weekends to be those days of laziness and relaxing, maybe a nice pub lunch. Dont get me wrong i love Max and Milly and being with them, but i desperatley miss that time to just be together in the day time and relax together instead of racing off to a farm or a playground, or some other place that entertains them and passes the day.
Why cant you have children and also have all that hey!! Paul and i do try to have an evening a week where one of us cooks a nice 3 course meal and we spend the evening as if out for dinner- in reality its not as often as often we're too tired other than to slouch on the sofa.
it gets to 7pm and the house is quiet and we can finally relax and then sometimes it feels like i have no energy to do all the things i have wanted to do in the day.
i think its impt to ask people to help you in that too though, even once a month getting a sat or sun all to yourself to do stuff together and really be able to enjoy each other without the distraction of entertaining little ones....if i lived in sheff i would be willing to offer - but if you want to spend a day around Leeds together doing stuff, Holly and Elijah are very welcome to come and play with us for the day- and that is a genuine offer not just being polite !! xx
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